Qualities that make a person successful
Qualities that make a person successful:
The motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose.
Napoleon Hill wrote, “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.”
A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the river. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, ‘What did you want the most when you were there?” The boy replied, “Air.” Socrates said, “That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it.” There is no other secret.
A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.
Integrity and wisdom are the two pillars on which to build and keep commitments. This point is best illustrated by the manager, who told one of his staff members, “Integrity is keeping your commitment even if you lose money and wisdom is not to make such foolish commitments.”
Prosperity and success are the result of our thoughts and decisions. It is our decision what thoughts will dominate our lives. Success is not an accident. It is the result of our attitude.
Playing to Win Requires Commitment
There is a big difference between playing to win and playing not to lose. When we play to win, we play with enthusiasm and commitment; whereas when we play not to lose, we are playing from a position of weakness. When we play not to lose, we are playing to avoid failure. We all want to win, but very few are prepared to pay the price to prepare to win. Winners condition and commit themselves to winning. Playing to win comes out of inspiration, whereas playing not to lose comes out of desperation.
There are no ideal circumstances. There will never be. To reach anywhere we cannot just drift nor lie at anchor. We need to sometimes sail with the wind and sometimes against it, but sail we must.
Ask any coach or athlete what the difference between the best and the worst team is. There would be very little difference in their physique, talent and ability. The biggest difference you will find is emotional difference. The winning team has dedication and they make the extra effort.
To a winner, the tougher the competition
- the greater the incentive
- the more motivated he is
- the better the performance
- the sweeter the victory
New challenges develop new potential. Most athletes’ best performances have come when the odds are slightly against them. That is when they dig deeper into their reservoir.
Success is not in the achievement but in the achieving. Some people never try because they are afraid to lose. At the same time, they don’t want to stay where they are because they are afraid to be left behind. There is a risk either way. Ships that go out into the open water face risk from a storm. But if they sit in the harbor, they would rust and that is
not what they were built for. That is the difference between playing to win and playing not to lose. One cannot be committed and not take risks. People who play to win thrive on pressure and those who play not to lose don’t know how to succeed.
Pressure makes people who play to win, prepare harder. For those who play not to lose, the pressure saps the energy. They want to win but they are so afraid to lose that they can’t reach their full potential. They lose energy worrying about losing instead concentrating their efforts on winning.
Losers want security, winners seek opportunity. Losers are more afraid of life than death. Failing is not a crime but lack of effort is.
People with character accept responsibilities. They make decisions and determine their own destiny in life. Accepting responsibilities involves taking risks and being accountable which is sometimes uncomfortable. Most people would rather stay in their comfort zone and live passive lives without accepting responsibilities. They drift through life waiting for things to happen rather than making them happen. Accepting responsibilities involves taking calculated, not foolish, risks. It means evaluating all the pros and cons, then taking the most appropriate decision or action. Responsible people don’t think that the world owes them a living.
You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.
You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.
You cannot enrich the poor by impoverishing the rich.
You cannot establish sound security on borrowed money.
You cannot help the wage earner by pulling down the wage pay or .
You cannot build character and courage by taking away man’s initiative and independence. You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.
You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than you earn.
You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for Themselves.
Responsible people accept and learn from their mistakes. Some people never learn.
We can do three things about mistakes:
- Ignore them
- Deny them
- Accept and learn from them
Success is not something that you run into by accident. It takes a lot of preparation and character. Everyone likes to win but how many are willing to put in the effort and time to prepare to win? It takes sacrifice and self-discipline. There is no substitute for hard work.
Henry Ford said, “The harder you work, the luckier you get.”
The world is full of willing workers, some willing to work and the others willing to let them. One cannot develop a capacity to do anything without hard work, just as a person cannot learn how to spell by sitting on a dictionary. Professionals make things look easy because they have mastered the fundamentals of whatever they do.
Character is the sum total of a person’s values, beliefs and personality. It is reflected in our behavior, in our actions. It needs to be preserved more than the richest jewel in the world. To be a winner takes character. George Washington said, “I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most valuable of all titles, the character of an honest man.”
It is not the polls or public opinions but the character of the leader that determines the course of history. There is no twilight zone in integrity. The road to success has many pitfalls. It takes a lot of character and effort not to fall into them. It also takes character not to be disheartened by critics.
How come most people love success but hate successful people? Whenever a person rises above average, there will always be someone trying to rip him apart. Chances are pretty good when you see a person on top of a hill, that he just didn’t get there, but had to endure a tough climb. It’s no different in life. In any profession, a successful person will be envied by those who are not. Don’t let criticism distract you from reaching your goal.
Average people play it safe to avoid criticism, which can be easily avoided by saying, doing or being nothing. The more you accomplish, the more you risk being criticized. It seems there is a relationship between success and criticism. The greater the success the more the criticism.
Critics have always been sitting at the sidelines. They are underachievers who shout at doers, telling them how to do it right. But remember critics are not the leaders or doers and it is worthwhile asking them to come down to where the action is.
Character is a Combination
Character is a combination of integrity, unselfishness, understanding, conviction,
courage, loyalty and respect.
What is a pleasant personality with character?
- It is a class by itself.
- It is composure.
- It is poise.
- It is surefootedness and confidence without arrogance.
- It is being considerate.
- It is never making excuses.
- It is knowing that courtesy and good manners take many small sacrifices.
- It is learning from past mistakes.
- It has nothing to do with money or blue blood.
- It never builds itself by destroying others.
- It is substance, not just form.
- It can walk with the elite and yet maintain the common touch.
- It is a gentle word, a kind look and a good-natured smile.
- It is the secret pride that stands against tyranny.
- It is comfortable with itself and others.
- It is the classic touch that gives the winning edge.
- It works wonders.
- It accomplishes miracles.
- It is easy to recognize, hard to define.
- It is accepting responsibility.
- It is humility.
- It is graciousness in victory and defeat.
- It is not fame and fortune.
- It is not a plaque.
- It is permanent.
- It is intangible.
- It is being courteous and polite without being subservient.
- It is being classy without being corky.
- It is self-discipline and knowledge.
- It is self-contained.
- It is a gracious winner and an understanding loser
What is the difference between positive thinking and positive believing? What if you could actually listen to your thoughts? Are they positive or negative? How are you programming your mind, for success or failure? How you think has a profound effect on your performance.
Having a positive attitude and being motivated is a choice we make every morning. Living a positive life is not easy; but then neither is negative living. Given a choice, I would go for positive living. Positive thinking is better than negative thinking and it will help us use our abilities to the fullest.
Give More Than You Get
It is easy to succeed today. We have no competition. If you want to get ahead in life, go the extra mile. There is no competition on the extra mile. Are you willing to do a little more than you get paid for ? How many people you know are willing to do a little bit more than what they get paid for? Hardly any. Most people don’t want to do what they get paid for and there is a second category of people who only want to do what they can get by with. They fulfill their quota just to keep their jobs. There is a small fraction who are willing to do a little bit more than what they get paid for. Why do they do more? If you fall into the last category, then where is your competition? The advantages of doing more than you get paid for are :
- You make yourself more valuable, regardless of what you do and where you work.
- It gives you more confidence.
- People start looking at you as a leader.
- Others start trusting you.
- Superiors start respecting you.
- It breeds loyalty from both your subordinates and your superiors.
- It generates cooperation.
The Power of Persistence
Nothing will take the place of persistence. Talent will not : Nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent . Genius will not : Unrewarded genius is a proverb. Education will not: The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
Pride of Performance
In today’s world, pride in performance has fallen by the wayside because it requires effort and hard work. However, nothing happens unless it is made to happen. When one is discouraged, it is easy to look for shortcuts. However these should be avoided no matter how great the temptation. Pride comes from within, which is what gives the winning edge.
Pride of performance does not represent ego. It represents pleasure with humility. The quality of the work and the quality of the worker are inseparable. Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results.
Be Willing to Be a Student–Get a Mentor
If God and the teacher (guru) are standing together, who does the student salute first?
According to Indian culture, the answer is the teacher, because without his direction and help, the student could not have met God. A mentor or a teacher is a person whose hindsight can become your foresight. Look for someone who can accept you as a mentee or a student. Choose your mentor carefully. A good one will guide and give direction; a bad one will misguide. Show respect. Be an interested student. Teachers like interested students.
The best teachers will not give you something to drink, they will make you thirsty. They will put you on a path to seek answers.